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A Scandinavian Speaks Out

I know that people are talking about me and my trans daughter. I grew up in a small town, and my parents still live there, and… word gets around.  (“Did you know that their grandson is now a girl?”) But this is not necessarily a bad thing. Mom called first thing Monday morning.  “Honey, I…

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The Binary Blues

The binary is a big fat bully. Seriously, what a meany! It’s like a drill sergeant at boot camp, spitting out orders as it forces us to line up in tidy military-style formation: “Two lines only! Girls on the left! Boys on the right!” Pick your line, the Binary Bully orders us, conform to its…

Dang! I forgot about feminism!

“Barbies? Seriously?!” My friend Rachel and her kids are over for a play date.  Rachel’s daughter has just walked into the room with a naked Barbie Doll in her hand.  Rachel is not amused. I don’t need Rachel to explain that I’ve committed a serious feminist faux pas. But she still feels the need to…

Not so alone after all

Over this past weekend, I attended my first conference about this whole “transgender thing,” the Gender Odyssey conference  in Seattle.  It’s an annual gathering for transgender and other gender-nonconforming folks, the professionals who work with them, and those who love them.  As the mother of a young “trans girl,” I fall solidly and vehemently into…