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Second grader in charge.

She put on leggings this morning.  I suggested a dress to go over them. “No, I want to wear a shirt.” The leggings were tight.  The shirt wasn’t long.  Things would be showing. I had to tell her. Deep breath, then, totally casual, like I’m asking her if she wants a banana or yoghurt for…

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Seven years old, stealth, and scared

Oh friends, I feel like I’ve really screwed up. I’ve tried so hard to strike a balance in my parenting, attempting to ensure my child’s safety and privacy  without instilling a sense of shame in her trans identity.  And I think I’ve done pretty well.  She has friends of all ages who are transgender and who…

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Deep Stealth Mode

M. is getting ready to start second grade at a new school next week.  She’s enrolled as a girl.  Since she’s very private about being transgender, only three people in her large public elementary school will know this about her:  Her teacher, the school counselor, and her best buddy and fellow-second-grader, Posey. I worked with…