My child is not a predator

My last post, about M.’s schoolmate finding out that she was transgender, got some pretty strong responses – some of them not very nice. Some people leapt to the conclusion that my child was walking around exposing herself to random children at school, that these kids were being traumatized by this, and that when these…

The real reason I’m OK

My grandmother is dying.  Dad just called to say she didn’t really know him this morning.  She’s lying in bed at the nursing home, and the drugs are making her sleep all the time. We’re in this awful purgatory – not yet able to start grieving but knowing we will be doing a lot of…

Fear and Beauty

I’m having coffee with my friend Cathy and she’s talking about putting her trans daughter on cross-hormones.  Her daughter is pushing for it. But it’s keeping Cathy up at night. “I just don’t know what to do.  She says she doesn’t mind if she can’t have kids, but how can she know this for sure…