New podcast episode: How to be a (teen) girl

Yeah, I know it’s still five years off, but the truth is I’m already pretty freaked out about my transgender daughter becoming a teenager.  You may be, too, even if your child isn’t trans. But, as one of my amazing experts in this episode puts it:  “Shut up. You don’t know the half of it.”…

Do you listen to the parent or the child?

I received an email recently from a mother who asked for my advice. I think it’s a great question and not an easy one to answer, but I tried, because I think it’s so important. I’m curious what you think about this question and my response. I’m sure others have encountered this situation and I…

New podcast episode: Just Maybe

  It was about a year after she transitioned – around age six – when I realized that if my daughter continued along this path, she was never going to be a mommy.  At least not a biological one.  I’ve grieved for this quietly for a long time now, and I haven’t had the heart…

New podcast episode: My Friend Lauren

At this unthinkable moment, this woman gives me hope.  She lived boldly and authentically in an era when almost no one acknowledged her existence.  Today, she’s the one I turn to when I’m terrified. I hope she gives you some hope, too. Listen to My Friend Lauren

New podcast episode: Play Date

My transgender daughter has lots of friends, and we’re big on play dates with other little girls. But sometimes a shared passion for Legos and Shopkins doesn’t cut it. Sometimes she needs to spend some time with a friend who’s just like her. “How to Be a Girl” Episode XIII: Play Date

How to Be a Dad

When my husband and I split up four years ago, we agreed to share custody of our….”son.” Four years later, we have a transgender daughter, and the crazy truth is that I’ve never really asked him how he feels about this.  So I did.  And I recorded his answer for the latest episode of my…