How to Be a Dad

When my husband and I split up four years ago, we agreed to share custody of our….”son.” Four years later, we have a transgender daughter, and the crazy truth is that I’ve never really asked him how he feels about this.  So I did.  And I recorded his answer for the latest episode of my…

Dear Ms. S.

My little wonder starts third grade tomorrow. (How did that happen?) We bought all her school supplies and some snazzy new clothes. She’s got her first-day outfit picked out. Now all that’s left is for her mom to email the teacher: Dear Ms. S., It’s hard to believe that tomorrow my little girl starts third…

New podcast episode: Short and Silly

This mini-episode of my podcast is a little update on what we’ve been up to, with some very silly audio of my daughter.  (What can I say?  It’s been a silly summer!)   There’s also an important announcement about the future of my podcast (it’s good news, I promise) and an update on my daughter’s love life (and…

Some really interesting questions

I recently had a chance to talk with Hillary Frank, a fellow mother of a young daughter, and the smart and talented host of a parenting podcast called The Longest Shortest Time. She asked some really interesting questions no one had asked me before, about what it’s like to parent my trans daughter. You can listen here.…

New podcast: A bathroom bill in my backyard

I never thought a bathroom bill – the kind they passed in North Carolina – would come to my home state.  But it did.  They’re trying to pass one where I live, and I made this podcast episode to tell the story of my fight (so far) against it. Below are some of the photos I’ve…

New Podcast Episode: School (Part II)

This is the second part of a two-part episode (you can hear the first part here) about what happened when I enrolled my transgender daughter in a new school this past fall.  It hasn’t been easy, but we’ve both learned a lot – about ourselves and about the people in our lives. You can listen…

New Podcast Episode: School

The ninth episode of my podcast, “How to Be a Girl,” has been six months in the making, because that’s how long it took for this story to play out. It’s the story of my daughter entering second grade at a new school where we knew pretty much no one, almost no one knew her…