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Seven years old, stealth, and scared

Oh friends, I feel like I’ve really screwed up. I’ve tried so hard to strike a balance in my parenting, attempting to ensure my child’s safety and privacy  without instilling a sense of shame in her trans identity.  And I think I’ve done pretty well.  She has friends of all ages who are transgender and who…

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Deep Stealth Mode

M. is getting ready to start second grade at a new school next week.  She’s enrolled as a girl.  Since she’s very private about being transgender, only three people in her large public elementary school will know this about her:  Her teacher, the school counselor, and her best buddy and fellow-second-grader, Posey. I worked with…

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Reunion time!

This weekend M. and I are going to a family reunion.  It starts tonight with a pool party at the hotel.  Tomorrow we head to the convention center to hang out with a thousand or so members of our adopted extended family.  We don’t know most of them, but we met some of them last…

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Meeting Laverne (Part II)

Earlier this summer I wrote on this blog about my daughter meeting Laverne Cox.  The post went kind of viral. I heard from a lot of reporters interested in the story.  I gave a lot of interviews.  My daughter even gave an interview (her first!) to Amy Poehler’s Smart Girls website. (She rocked it!) But…

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THE FACTS (about transgender kids)

A couple of weeks ago, I read the following words in an article on the home page of The New York Times: “…studies suggest that most young children with gender dysphoria eventually lose any desire to change sex, and may grow up to be gay, rather than transgender.” Really? I sat forward in my seat. As the…

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My daughter, Caitlyn Jenner, and Laverne Cox

As the mother of a young transgender child, my response to Caitlyn Jenner’s headline-grabbing announcement is a visceral one. Yes, I’m kind of put off by the hype. No, I’m not a big fan of celebrity culture or reality television. But when I look at the cover of Vanity Fair, and read the news articles…

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None of your beeswax!

A lot of you wrote to me about my recent post, “That’s why they’re called privates.”  In a nutshell, I was writing about touring a new afterschool program for my daughter, and the director had got wind of the fact that she is transgender and had apparently told her whole staff before we’d even talked…