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Don’t Give Up.

  I sat down with my seven-year-old transgender daughter and asked her to tell me the story of her fight to be seen as the girl she always knew she was. I also asked her to offer some advice for other kids like her – and for their parents. I recorded her words and added…

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Your questions answered.

If only the whole world could attend the Gender Odyssey conference.  It would make my daughter’s life so much easier, not to mention mine.  And it would make the rest of the world happier and smarter and kinder, too – I’m sure of it. In August, I attended this annual conference for the third time,…

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Second grader in charge.

She put on leggings this morning.  I suggested a dress to go over them. “No, I want to wear a shirt.” The leggings were tight.  The shirt wasn’t long.  Things would be showing. I had to tell her. Deep breath, then, totally casual, like I’m asking her if she wants a banana or yoghurt for…

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Seven years old, stealth, and scared

Oh friends, I feel like I’ve really screwed up. I’ve tried so hard to strike a balance in my parenting, attempting to ensure my child’s safety and privacy  without instilling a sense of shame in her trans identity.  And I think I’ve done pretty well.  She has friends of all ages who are transgender and who…

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Deep Stealth Mode

M. is getting ready to start second grade at a new school next week.  She’s enrolled as a girl.  Since she’s very private about being transgender, only three people in her large public elementary school will know this about her:  Her teacher, the school counselor, and her best buddy and fellow-second-grader, Posey. I worked with…

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Reunion time!

This weekend M. and I are going to a family reunion.  It starts tonight with a pool party at the hotel.  Tomorrow we head to the convention center to hang out with a thousand or so members of our adopted extended family.  We don’t know most of them, but we met some of them last…

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Meeting Laverne (Part II)

Earlier this summer I wrote on this blog about my daughter meeting Laverne Cox.  The post went kind of viral. I heard from a lot of reporters interested in the story.  I gave a lot of interviews.  My daughter even gave an interview (her first!) to Amy Poehler’s Smart Girls website. (She rocked it!) But…