Dear friends, I just wanted to make sure you knew about my latest news: My book! (It’s officially coming out in print tomorrow, and you can probably find it at your local bookstore or library.) This blog is where I first started writing down stories (more than eight years ago!) about my beautiful daughter, and…
Dear friends, It’s been almost a year since my last episode. What a year! I’m sure it’s felt like several years (or decades?) to many of you, too. I hope you are healthy and thriving, finding your way through these challenging times. I hope you are safe and surrounded by love, and I thank you…
Earlier this year, parents from around the world shared their stories with me about raising their beautiful trans children. I wrote an essay about them, and now you can read it here on the New York Times website. Our kids really ARE everywhere. And wherever YOU are, I hope you will cherish them and protect…
Dear friends, In my last post, I shared the first part of the documentary I helped produce for the BBC World Service. Part 2 is now available here. I’m particularly excited about Part 2, because it shares stories of the children I’ve been thinking about (and wondering about and worrying about) for years: Transgender children…
I’ve always wondered how my counterparts were faring in other countries. I’ve always worried how they might be coping, in places with even bigger challenges than we have faced here in the U.S. (I know that my daughter and I have been magnificently lucky to find so much love and support.) But what is it…
Dear friends, You may have noticed that I removed my latest episode from the “How to Be a Girl” podcast website and feed. The episode was about some experiences my daughter has had in middle school. I was proud of the episode, and I worked really hard on it. I also received a lot of…
I’m so very excited to announce my book! It’s a memoir about my own transition, from clinging to the belief that I had a son to embracing my beautiful transgender daughter. You’ll recognize some of the stories from this blog, but most of it is new. You’ll also get to hear the voice of my…
I want you to meet my good friend, Emma. When she was a little girl, she was just like my daughter. But no one knew her for 60 years. I’m so glad she’s here now. You can hear Emma’s story (and the story of her friendship with me and my daughter) in the latest episode…
Dear friends, Just checking in to let you know I’m OK (though still hacking my way through a fairly dense forest), and to wish you a Happy Pride Month! I also wanted to share this drawing that my daughter M. made – see below. (She gave me permission to share it with you, by the…
Dear friends, I wanted to check in with an update, as it’s been a fairly long stretch since you’ve heard anything from me. First and foremost: My kiddo is doing GREAT. So far, she’s told a handful of friends at her new school that she’s trans, and thus far they (and their parents, whom I…
It’s official: She’s a tween. It seemed like a good time to sit down and ask my 11-year-old about her world, and get a snapshot of what she thinks and how she’s doing. We covered some pretty typical tween girl stuff: Gossip, fashion, cliques. And we also covered some not-so-typical stuff, including what puberty looks…
A few weeks after starting fifth grade at a new school, my daughter came home and announced, “I have a new best friend and I’m going to tell her in a month that I’m transgender.” In the meantime, her new stepdad is giving her poker lessons. Hear all about it in the latest episode of…
This latest episode gives you an update on our new life here in the suburbs and some of the challenges we’re encountering. I get some helpful advice from a new friend from the Bible Belt. You’ll also hear how my daughter is faring in her new school, plus: Wedding audio! Listen here: http://www.howtobeagirlpodcast.com/episodes/episode-xxvii-playdates-with-christians
In the last episode, I asked my listeners to help me answer this question: Should my daughter tell the kids at her new school that she’s transgender? In this episode, you will hear the wisdom that came back to me. My cup runneth over.
My daughter starts fifth grade at a new school next month. It’s a fresh start, where no one knows that she’s transgender. How do I handle this? How do I advise her? Should she keep her transgender status to herself or be more open? After you listen to this episode, I could really use your advice: What…
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