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“80 percent change back”

“80 percent change back,” she says. M.’s dad and I are sitting in the office of the local go-to psychologist for transgender kids. I sigh, relieved. Our 3-year-old child probably isn’t transgender. It probably is just a phase: The insistence on wearing only pink, the passion for dolls, and the recent announcement that took my…

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Laverne!

If you have not purchased a copy of this week’s TIME magazine, it is officially time for you to do so. Go! Right now! Run to the store and buy it! Why? Because on the cover of this week’s issue is the lovely, smart, and inspiring transgender “It” girl, Laverne Cox, who plays a transgender…

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Pants!

I apologize for the long stretch between posts. All is well with me and the amazing young M., but we’ve had a bit of a rough patch: Broken sewer line, overflowing toilet, toys floating around M.’s bedroom… you get the picture.  Happy to report that no beloved toys were lost to the Great Toilet Flood of…

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Time for flowers

We buried my grandmother this weekend.  Hundreds of people stuffed the pews at the church she helped found decades ago when she and my grandfather started their life together in the small community where I was lucky enough to grow up. In the parish hall after the service, M. ran around in her sparkly new…

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The real reason I’m OK

My grandmother is dying.  Dad just called to say she didn’t really know him this morning.  She’s lying in bed at the nursing home, and the drugs are making her sleep all the time. We’re in this awful purgatory – not yet able to start grieving but knowing we will be doing a lot of…